Breaking Stereotypes: A Conversation on Family, Identity, and Personal Growth

Episode #1095

In this episode, Doug sits down with Nino, a member of the TPM team, to have a real and honest conversation about identity, family, and personal growth especially from the lens of someone who didn’t grow up around this kind of work.

Nino shares his first experience attending an Alpha Reset and opens up about what it was like coming from a background where talking about emotions, growth, or family leadership wasn’t the norm. They get into cultural expectations, generational patterns, and what it means to take ownership of your life as a man.

This isn’t just a story about transformation it’s a call to rethink what leadership in your home and community really looks like. Whether you’re from the inner city or a small town, Latino or Black or White, the reality is most men were never taught how to be grounded and powerful at the same time.

You’ll hear about the masks we wear, why they’re so hard to take off, and how real change starts when you decide to stop performing and start leading.

If you've ever felt like you're doing life on someone else’s terms, this episode will hit home.

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Transcription

Doug Holt 0:00
Trying to present an image of themselves that they think they should be.

Nino 0:05
We didn’t want to be viewed as crazy.

Doug Holt 0:09
It becomes easy to go back to old ways.

Nino 0:13
You can still be who you are on your own terms.

Doug Holt 0:14
We’re the lighthouse that always stays on.

Nino 0:19
Being in that mind state was the best way that I possibly could have come in.

Doug Holt 0:25
You’re gonna screw up. You’re gonna screw up. Just own it and move on.

Doug Holt 0:42
Hey, guys, welcome back to another episode of the TPM Show. Today, I have a very special guest, and we’re going to look at a unique perspective, one man’s perspective on his journey within TPM. And I think you’re going to stick around for this, because toward the end, my guest is going to share something that I really think you’re going to like. Nino, thanks for being here.

Nino 1:00
Man, thanks for having me, Doug. This is a special moment. I’m excited.

Doug Holt 1:05
It is. And so for those men that may not know you, you’re one of our heads of digital marketing, so you work inside of the movement. You’ve been with us for over a year and a half at this point, and you finally went a couple of weeks ago to your Alpha Reset. And for the guys that don’t know, The Alpha Reset is a four-day transformational experience that we run at the TPM Ranch. We also run events in the UK as well. And you’re fresh off that, and you had some great insights.

Nino 1:32
I’m still on the high. Yes. So I would say it’s definitely a cathartic experience. I wasn’t expecting it to be that, but it definitely was. And I’m just glad and excited for the opportunity that I was able to, one, go and be there with all of these powerful, intelligent titans of business from the movement and have my own personal experience from The Alpha Reset as well.

Doug Holt 2:01
I think it’s unique for you to come into an Alpha Reset. Obviously, you have the advantage of seeing all the wins. So men that come in, they have trepidation. They’re nervous. Men are coming in to save their marriage. They’re coming in to get unstuck, get clear on life, get that pep back in their step. And for you, it was more of a curiosity. You’ve seen the transformations. You’re like, “Hey, man, I’ve seen all the testimonial videos. I’ve seen what these men have gone through. I want to experience some of that myself.” And even though you’ve been with TPM, and you and I work really closely together, what were you told about The Alpha Reset in preparation?

Nino 2:38
Nothing. I had no preconceived notions, expectations, or anything. So I came in fresh, open, and open to receive what I got out of it. I think, honestly, being in that mind state was the best way that I possibly could have come in. I don’t think that having a preconceived notion or an idea of what I was getting into would have let me be as willing a participant as I was.

Doug Holt 3:16
I can see that. And one of the things that you and I were talking about last night and then again today was that you don’t think the message that TPM sends out, I'm paraphrasing, of course, or the opportunity is as prevalent to men that may have grown up with your background.

Nino 3:36
So I grew up in a time and in a community that wasn’t as focused on, or pushed toward, family culture, right? I grew up with that “baby mama” culture, if you will. And I am happily married for over 20 years, just to say that. But before that, I think I wouldn’t have fallen into some of those pitfalls if there had been more emphasis there. And again, my father was a big part, and is still a big part, of my life, and I had a great upbringing. But the community and the environment were very much an influence on me, and some of that stuff came out in the Alpha Reset. We talked about that. So having that as something that I experienced and dealt with, I know there are probably other men out there who have come from the same kind of environment and culture and are curious about how something like The Powerful Man would affect them.

Doug Holt 4:52
So we could say it another way, right? I grew up with parents who separated when I was four and divorced when I was five. And when I had time with my dad, I grew up listening to personal development and business cassette tapes in his car. That was kind of the thing I got into. I got into personal development really, really young, so much so that I would actually steal library books because I could never get them back in time and eventually return them, which was my bad habit in middle school and high school, just so I could stay on that growth continuum. And you grew up in Los Angeles, right?

Nino 5:37
In the LA area. I’m from Pomona, California. And that made a big footprint on who I am as a person and also the types of people I was around. I was one of the few, even though my parents came from a similar situation, mom and dad divorced when I was probably three or four years old. There was that separation, and me being with a single father, and eventually my stepmom coming into the picture and making that a complete home. But I was one of the few who had a father figure in the home, someone who was my parent. There were obviously other fathers dealing with a lot of the same struggles that I’m seeing now through different eyes. And being able to navigate that world, I mean, violence was a big part of the culture. Substance abuse and gang culture were also part of it. Figuring all of that out without having a personal development background. So you weren’t born into it, but you started from a very young age working on this. I had some of that background, but not as developed as I would have liked.

Doug Holt 7:28
And to be transparent, I would say none of my friends were interested in it. In fact, I got a message from a guy I grew up with who lived next door. This was probably eight or nine years ago. He sent me a Facebook message saying, “So cool to see you doing what you always talked about.” And I was like, “What the heck are you talking about?” He said, “Man, when we were kids, you used to tell me about how to be more efficient with my time.” I bored him. But what’s interesting to me is they didn’t do that either. When I have conversations with men in the movement who are from the South, they’ll say, “Well, Doug, we don’t talk about this stuff.” When I have conversations with men from the Midwest, farmers, it’s, “We don’t talk about this stuff.” And so you and I were talking, and you were saying, “Hey, look, in the Black community, the Latino communities,” and I hear this a lot from other men who are Black or Latino who come through the movement, culturally, we’re not raised to talk about this. You just move on, right?

Nino 8:27
And it was a big taboo subject, right? We didn’t talk about it because we didn’t want to be viewed as crazy. And a lot of times, if you had a mental health issue, it was seen as something that was wrong with you, or intrinsically wrong with you, right? There were a lot of people I grew up around, and I didn’t understand it at the time, but they were using substances to self-numb, to cope with a lot of the pain and struggles they were feeling. Having friends who died at a young age from gun violence, a lot of people would self-numb to cope with it. This was just perceived as normal, a normal part of life. And then as you get older, you see the damaging effects that all of this has. And it’s not supposed to be that way, right?

Doug Holt 9:30
I agree 100%. Do you think it’s a cultural thing for Black men? Because I’m at a disadvantage, because all my Black male friends do, or have done, personal development. So when I hear this, I mean, honestly, I hear a very similar thing from farmers, like substance abuse. My kids are getting very similar stories, which is unique, interesting. We think our situations are so unique. Now I have thousands of data points, because we work with so many men. I see more commonalities, yep, that come together. But I hear this often. Recently, I had a conversation with a guy who is Latino, right? He happened to be Mexican American, and he was like, “Well, Doug, our culture, we don’t do personal development. We don’t talk about marital problems. We just don’t talk about it.” And then I look back, and I hear the same story from a guy from the East Coast of the US, like, “Oh, we don’t air our dirty laundry. We just don’t talk about it.” Do you think there’s something inherently different for a Black man than it would be for a Latino man, a White man, or an Asian man?

Nino 10:45
And I think, to your point, right, we’re talking about the differences, but there’s a lot more that’s similar than there is different, right? And I think, kind of like what we talked about too, when I mentioned my stick man, right? Ponte pilas. You know, it’s just, you’ve got to put your batteries in. You’ve got to get going and doing this, right? So I think these are struggles that happen a lot. We just don’t have the conversation about it. So having the language, having the understanding, and knowing that there’s a place that men can go to get this knowledge is powerful, right?

Doug Holt 11:29
I agree 100%. And I mentioned this to you, I think the disadvantage I see for Black men is that there aren’t as many faces publicly speaking about it as there are White guys, right? As an example. Because people identify like, “Oh, you look like me. You sound like me. You’re from where I’m from.” Cool. There’s a knowing in there. Even though, you know, growing up in LA, or for me, Orange County, California, I might have more in common with somebody in Columbus, Ohio, based on interests, likes, and experiences, than I would with somebody down the street.

Nino 12:09
And that’s the other part of this as well. There’s this face that we have, and a lot of times in media there’s this stereotype of the Black father not being present, not being around for his kids. And it’s not true. And so the movement, in and of itself, is something that can stimulate and propel forward that family culture, right? I grew up in a time when, you know, young Black males, 18 to 25, we weren’t supposed to be here. We weren’t supposed to make it. Coming through that on the other side, making it past 25, you feel like, “Hey, I’ve made it to this achievement. What now?” Right? What are we supposed to do now? What are those things that have been written into my coding at a young age that I can break free from now?

Doug Holt 13:09
That’s interesting. I’ve never considered it that way. And this is something I always tell Aaron, right? You’re talking for all women, Aaron. When I’ve talked to Special Forces guys, they often say, “Well, I anticipated dying before I hit 35 or 40.” And then when they make it past that stage, it’s almost a letdown. Like, “Oh shit, what else?” Like, I’ve exceeded the expected time I thought I’d be here. And it’s almost like a void gets created.

Nino 13:46
I would call it survivor’s remorse, right? Okay, so the fact that you made it, right. I’ve had friends tell me that, like, “Hey, you did good. You’re the one who made it.” You know, I’m not dead, I’m not in jail, and I’m not addicted to some substance. Those are telltale signs that make you say, “I’m glad that I’m here. I’m glad that I made it.” But do I feel like I’ve arrived? Do I feel like I’ve achieved all that I can accomplish, right? And that might happen younger if you come from that background where you feel like you shouldn’t be here at such a young age.

Doug Holt 14:31
Sure, that makes complete sense. The survivor’s guilt. It’s also a very common symptom for all men I talk to, which is the gap, right? This is different than survival guilt, but we think that, “Hey, when I get to this point, I’m gonna feel good. When I get the car, when I get the job, when I get the business, when I get the woman, when my kids get to a certain age.” All of these future-casting things, which creates a gap, right? When we reach what we think is the pinnacle, getting to the top of the mountain, then we’re like, “Is this it?”

Nino 15:10
And that’s a lot of the time when these feelings start to creep in, right? Because, like you’ve mentioned before, “Hey, I sold my business. Now I’m going to be happy. Now I’m going to ride off into the sunset, and everything’s going to be okay.” And we know that’s just not the case, right? And if you also have that story in the back of your head, like, “Hey, I’m doing better than my buddy down the street,” or my best friend I grew up with, then you start asking, “Well, wait a minute. Did I really make it? Is this what I’m supposed to be doing?”

Doug Holt 15:48
You’re talking about the bar, basically the comparison. The comparison bar, which everybody does. We all know that comparison isn’t a good thing, right? There’s always going to be something bigger, stronger, faster. You get the idea. And going through the TAR, I’m sure when you meet everybody and then get to know everybody, there’s a gap between how people present themselves, even in this unique subset of people, right? Good guys that show up for an Alpha Reset, they’re the one-percenters because they’re like, “I’m raising my hand to take action.” Even amongst those guys, you get to see the mask people wear at the initial stage, trying to present an image of themselves that they think they should be, versus the man they actually are inside. And that gap is what causes a lot of the conflict.

Nino 16:37
And the conflict inside. I had one of the best TAR groups ever, so shout out to those guys. And I think that as we’re shedding that past, all of those things we’ve had to learn and are now in the process of unlearning, we start to see a lot of the similarities. Using my TAR group as an example, I related in so many ways with those men and all of the things they were struggling with and working through as well. That shared experience helps move all of us forward, right, and helps us support each other. I agree 100%.

Doug Holt 17:28
Was there trepidation going in there, being the only Black guy?

Nino 17:32
So it wasn’t, and I wouldn’t put a color to it. What I would put to it is a mindset, right? We’re in a social, political climate where people who have differing views don’t talk, right? I like to believe, and I still want to, that I have a lot of friends that feel and think differently than I do, and I respect their opinion. We don’t agree, but I can respect their opinion, and we can disagree on those things. We’re in a time right now where it feels like people who think a certain way are so different that we can’t have that conversation, and we can’t find any common ground. And I think that was me coming in with some of those thoughts, like, “Hey, I hope that everybody’s receptive to me, like I’m being open to them.” And of course, everybody was, right? Those were some of the things I had in the back of my mind, and that’s part of not only what I’ve grown up with, but what I’ve seen and experienced in life that has shaped who I am and that thought process, 100%.

Doug Holt 18:56
I mean, it’s the lens through which you see the world, yep, based on the information you have, which is how you interact with the world, right? In any situation, it’s the default, if you will. We call it the version of shadow work in the stick man coming through, which makes it really interesting. I agree with you that politics have been weaponized against people, rather than people coming together, having dialogue, and actually talking. And that’s horrible. That’s me. One of the things I love is, I’m going to Japan, as you know, for The Brotherhood event. There’ll be 40 men there. It’s going to be awesome. I’m excited for you, Dad. I am too, man. The conversations there are so rich because you can have a staunch Republican and a staunch Democrat, and they disagree. They’ll jokingly bicker back and forth, but at the end of the day, that’s not what matters, right? They’re family men, they’re businessmen, and they also know that each other’s heart is in the right place to have that conversation. And it’s fun. I just make fun of everybody.

Nino 20:01
And that’s the other thing too, right? We have this idea like, well, if you’re not right, you’re left, and if you’re not left, you’re right, you know? And I don’t subscribe to either.

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Nino 21:10
And we want to be able to have the dialogue and say, “Hey, maybe these are things that we need to change,” not only within our country, but also within our society, and how we treat each other, think, and be better about the way we live. And if we focus on those commonalities rather than the differences, that’s the true way to do that.

Doug Holt 21:37
Oh, there’s no doubt about it. So from your perspective, with this, the message that we teach at TPM, and we talk about The Powerful Man, what the power comes from inside of you. So many men are looking for external validation. “Hey, what does my wife think of me?” That defines me as a man. “Hey, what kind of father am I?” That defines me as a man. What kind of car do I drive? What kind of business do I have? My income defines me. And our stance is that what defines you is inside of you. That’s where the real power is. It’s not power as in strength or brawn. It’s power as in how grounded you are and who you are as a human, as a man. How do you think, we talked about this last night, not only the Black community, but the Latino community, how do we get that message out to that community, or that broader community, more?

Nino 22:32
I think it’s a piece of self-worth, right? So a lot of times, especially, and I’ll say this, we have a lot of pressure to wear our wealth, right? But a truly rich man doesn’t wear his wealth. I don’t need to have a pair of J’s on, or a big necklace, or whatever. These outside, ostentatious representations of wealth, driving a fancy car or something like that, things that are going to depreciate, right, to show my value. So I think that, and I know this, by showing the worth that we intrinsically have inside, you know, a lot of times, like I said, as a Black man growing up, you hear and see a lot of these negative images and stereotypes. Being Latino, Afro-Latino, you see a lot of these negative images and stereotypes that you start to internalize and say, “Hmm, maybe I’m a part of that as well,” right? And combating that is saying, “Hey, I recognize my self-worth. I know who I am. I see the power within me,” right? One of the big things that also resonated with me is the visual imagery that we use of kings, yes, right? The use of the king, and how that’s also another term of endearment we use, “Hey, King”, to remind us of the power that we have inside. And I think that all men who are on this journey have that inside of them, and we just need to unlock it.

Doug Holt 24:30
Well, that’s the thing, right? The most common thing I hear after an Alpha Reset, well, the second most common thing. The most common thing is, “I wish I would have done this earlier.” You heard that, it sounds funny, it sounds cliché, until you go through the experience and you’re like, “Oh, that’s what you were talking about. Got it.” The second thing I hear is, “I found myself again,” or “I found myself for the first time.” And it’s an event like that, and you have to go through The Activation Method or the Ascension Blueprint, our two front-end programs, to get there, to the Alpha Reset, because you need foundational work, right? And when you get to this transformational experience, it’s not easy. It’s not an easy event to go through, not at all, by any means. And it’s not dangerous. It just takes you outside your comfort zones. And through that, finding that inner tweak of who you are as a man, I call it stripping away the bullshit. It’s not the most marketable term, but you strip it away and you see the man that you are, and you call him forward more. That becomes your true identity, versus chasing hip-hop culture or chasing any other image, if I’m a farmer, I’m supposed to dress and look this way; if I’m a real estate agent, I need to dress and look this way; if I’m whatever, insert wherever you grow up, wherever you’re from. People seek identity. And for those listening, my question to you is: if you don’t know your true identity, what’s the identity that puts you in your best state and sets you up for the greatest advantages in life?

Nino 26:10
It’s all programming, 100%. So instead of receiving programming externally, you program yourself, and you do that from the inside by discovering who you are. Experiences like the TAR let you say, “Oh, this is who I am.” It reminds you, “Oh, I remember. I know who I am again.” And that’s powerful. That’s powerful in and of itself. So just echoing what you’re saying, in terms of knowing where that comes from and redefining who you are, you don’t have to, just because you’re in finance or another industry, fit into a certain mold. You can still be who you are on your own terms, and that, I feel like, is the most important and powerful piece in all of this.

Doug Holt 27:12
Let’s circle back real quick, because you brought this up earlier, the stereotype of Black men leaving their families, right? How does that get combated? Because a lot of men listening right now, of every ethnicity, every religion, every background, want to keep their families together. How does that become more possible in the Black and Latino communities?

Nino 27:48
I would say it’s about thinking of it from the perspective of, “This is my family.” We’ve been spoon-fed, and I’ve mentioned this before, but there was a finite time when there were a lot of movies, a lot of media, and music pushing this baby mama identity. Marriage, a lot of times, you know, in the past, people would get married and then divorce. Now that’s happening less and less, but we’re still having families. We’re still having children. So being that we promote a family culture, even the concept of co-parenting is relatively new and part of this generation that’s coming up now. But if we think about it from the very beginning, this is my partner, this is my queen that I’m going to share a life with, share a family with, thinking generationally, thinking about legacy, that changes the whole perspective. You’re not just thinking about the moment. You’re not just thinking short-term. That’s why it’s called baby mama, we don’t think about what happens when they’re children, when they’re teenagers. It’s not “teenager mama.” We don’t think that far ahead. It’s about developing the idea and concept of a family culture, and that’s very important to me, for all men.

Doug Holt 29:52
What comes up for me, and I love this, is I know as a kid I sought out gangs for that family vibe, and through the music I listened to. I grew up in Orange County, California, so I had to seek it out, but there were Asian and Latino gangs. Some of my friends I played soccer with, and I would hang out with them and their families. And it didn’t dawn on me until adulthood. So in Santa Barbara, where both of us lived, ironically, Nino and I went to the same university, lived in the same city for 20 years, and I don’t think we ever met each other. We had to have, but not that we remember. It was early 20s or whatever.

At that time, I was in my early 20s as a business owner. I went to a Rotary Club function, and they had a speaker. The speaker was a man who had been in gangs his whole life and was now going out speaking to kids about how to stay out of gangs. And he said something I thought was really interesting. He said everybody thinks it’s the parents’ fault. Why aren’t the parents helping the kids not get into gangs? He said that’s not the issue. He said, “My mom worked two full-time jobs. My dad worked two full-time jobs. So by the time I got home from school, they were working to provide a really good life for me, but there was nobody around.”

So when I went outside, who do you think was around? It was the older kids who weren’t working, who were selling drugs and doing stuff. So they became an extension of my family. And they were attracting me in, not predaciously, but circumstantially, through proximity. And that’s how you get most of your relationships, right? Most everybody listening met their wife through proximity, although with digital dating apps it’s different. And that’s how gang culture revolves, right?

And I could see it, if getting into gang culture was something attractive to me where I grew up, I could imagine that would be even more attractive to somebody that had easier access to gangs.

Nino 32:13
And because it’s so prevalent, right, you want to belong to something. You want to belong to something that is bigger than you, that is bigger than who you are. And we all have our allegiances, right? We follow our favorite sports teams. Those things are sources of pride. And that’s the same thing with the community. In LA, gang culture is very prevalent and a big part of how people show and define their identity. So it is very attractive.

And I think what we have to do now is separate all of that. There are people, like the person you saw at the Rotary Club, who are going out and sharing the other side of the story. In music and hip-hop, we always see one side. We see the money and the shine, but we don’t see the other side, being away from your family, going to jail, detoxing from substances. All of that side of life is hidden. So having that full, true view is important.

And we need to be men and show that to the younger generation, instead of trying to participate. Instead of being the big brother saying, “Hey, come over here and do this,” we need to show them, “This is how you do this. This is the right way to go about it.”

We talked about rites of passage, right? Those were things in that environment that we thought of as rites of passage. Those were the men and the people we had those moments with. I want this movement to be the other side of that, promoting family culture, promoting fatherhood, excelling in business, excelling in health and well-being, developing the practices we teach. Keystone habits, Alpha Rise and Shine, all of those things we talk to the men about. We need to be empowering our lives and then going back to the community and sharing it with our community as well.

Doug Holt 34:51
I agree. Within the movement, we call it being a lighthouse, right? Bear with me, because you’ve heard this, Nino, but for those that don’t understand, imagine a ship out at sea and a storm hits. The ship knows it’s not going to make it if it stays out there. In this analogy, I usually use the wife, but it could also be a young man or a young woman, someone going through troubled times.

They know there are rocks on the shore, so they can’t just go in. And then they see a lighthouse in the distance. Finally, they can point their boat toward the lighthouse and know they’ll be safe. But then the lighthouse goes off. They think, “Oh crap, I’ve got to go back out to sea, because if I go in, I could hit rocks and die.” Then the lighthouse comes back on. They head toward it again, and it turns off. Now they think, “I can’t trust that lighthouse.”

That analogy is us as men who do the work, who find our power within, who are grounded. We’re the lighthouse that always stays on. The problem is that most people only turn their light on when it’s convenient. When times get tough with your wife, your community, or life in general, it becomes easy to go back to old ways.

The trick is having backup generators. You and I talked about being in the conversation, that’s my backup generator. The more I’m in the conversation, the easier it is. The more reps I get. How can you, even when it gets tough, be that lighthouse in your community that never turns off? So when there’s a ship out to sea that’s lost, it knows it can trust that light.

To me, that comes through authenticity. It comes through doing the hard work, peeling back the layers in your life, having real conversations that matter, and showing up every day. And the fourth thing I’ll say is, you’re going to screw up. You’re going to screw up. Just own it and move on.

So many people are scared when they screw up. They hope nobody sees it, like if they pretend it didn’t happen, no one will say anything. But everybody sees it. Just call it out. Say, “Man, I screwed up. I made a mistake, and here’s what I’m going to do to correct it”

Nino 37:29
Own your failures as much as you own your successes, right? We always, and especially in this age of social media, are quick to show all the good things. But we’re not as quick to show our inadequacies and the things we’re not as proud of, or the mistakes we’ve made. So I think embracing that, and thank you for the reminder about the lighthouse, just embracing those things, embracing the part about working on yourself, right? Like you said, we’re going to fail. There are going to be things we make mistakes on, but learning from them is key. That’s really what I want to do now that I’m aware.

Before we met, Doug, I thought filling my cup meant going out and getting another drink, right? So now I have that understanding, and that’s something I’m going to take out and share and radiate to the people I’m around and come in contact with.

Doug Holt 38:36
I love that, man. You’re such a great guy. When you think about any community, you are a lighthouse. You love your family. You’re a family-first man. That’s how I would define you, not just through your words, because everybody says that, but through your actions. That’s obvious to me in the way you consistently show up in your life.

The way you came into the event not knowing anything, not knowing anyone, and being surprised that I was going to be there, it threw you off a little bit, but it was a pleasant surprise. It’s a testament to who you are and how you show up. And for other men listening to this, I think you’re a great role model of what’s possible.

Nino 39:22
Thank you, Doug. One of the songs we sing at church on Sunday says, “You will know that we are Christians by our love.” And I think what that means is to be an example, right? To lead by example. You can fake words, but you can trust actions. And when you do it consistently, that’s what builds trust.

So continue showing up. Continue being that lighthouse. And thank you for those kind words, Doug. I’ll be honest, I wouldn’t have been able to pull through it without you being there. Thank you for giving me the opportunity not only to learn about the movement, but about myself.

Doug Holt 40:11
Awesome, man. Gentlemen, as I often say, in the moment of insight, take massive action. In this particular situation, take what Nino just said, your actions speak louder than your words.

For a lot of you guys struggling right now in your marriage, what are your actions saying? Are you pulling away when things get tough? Are you shutting down? You need the skill sets to get into the uncomfortable. How do you actually show up as a lighthouse? Black, Hispanic, Asian, white, Indian, whatever. Where are you showing up, and where are you making excuses and telling stories that hold you back?

Think of yourself like a hot air balloon. You’re trying to lift off the ground to reach your greatness, but all around you are sandbags. You need to systematically cut each one so you can elevate to the life you deserve, because you deserve more than average. We’ll see you next time on the TPM Show.