Episode #87
We are taught to believe that when we hustle and grind we will become successful and this will make us happy. This is the idea of success and happiness that was taught to us by society.
But what if you were to identify for yourself what will give you that true happiness and life’s meaning? What if you chose to break the rules and just do what you love to do?
Letting yourself experience spontaneous fun and just doing what you love is MORE important than living the way society wants you to.
When we inject fun in all areas of our lives, life starts to become more meaningful, business grows a lot faster while doing less and your relationship starts to have a deeper connection and intimacy.
In this episode you will learn :
- The importance of injecting fun in all areas of your life
- How to be successful and happy by doing less
- How to let yourself find life’s meaning by breaking the rules and just doing what you love.
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Episode Script
Tim Matthews 0:00
The reality here is, guys, once you start injecting more meaning and fun into your life, watch how that affects every other area.
Doug Holt 0:13
Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of The Powerful Man show. With my co-host Tim, “The Powerful Man, I am your host, Doug Holt,” Matthew. Tim, what’s going on, brother?
Tim Matthews 0:24
I’m doing great. I’m just wondering, does the crowd still cheer after you introduce me? I listened to a few episodes, and the crowd was cheering.
Doug Holt 0:33
Yeah, well, I don’t know. So I’m sure if you ask Billy, he might slip you in a chair here and there. But you never know. You have to ask Billy and be nice to him. He is our editor. And Billy is a stud.
Tim Matthews 0:48
Nice.
Doug Holt 0:51
He’s a man. I love Billy. I’ve been working with them for a long time. And he always steps up and produces amazing material. So Billy, thank you.
Tim Matthews 0:57
Yes, Billy, thank you. And I just put some chairs in.
Doug Holt 1:07
Tim, you had something that you wanted to bring up? What is it?
Tim Matthews 1:11
So obviously, we’re going to keep this short and sweet, In this episode. So one of the common complaints we experienced from the men is that their life lacks meaning. Life has become very serious, and everything has become about work. And they end up feeling quite well, not quite, they’re not feeling very empty. And with that emptiness often comes a feeling of isolation and loss. Because by this point, they have gone after everything they thought would give them meaning in their life and make them happy, money, homes, holidays, cars, watches, women, you name it, and I’ve got it all. So the trouble is that they ever feel worse than they did before they had any of it because they thought that all of those things would make them happy, and then they don’t. Simplified by The Alpha Reset literally, we took the guy outside to jump in puddles, and they loved it. First, one of the guys was like, and I’m wearing my best weight trainers to get over it and get outside. So I want to give you guys an exercise you can do right now. So what I’d like you to do is take 45 to 60 minutes. I’d like you to come up with a list of ideally 100 things that give your life meaning. Now, these can be super simple things like watching the sunset, going for a walk in the woods, being by the sea, tickling your wife, having sex, being in the mountains, whatever it is. But take inventory and stick with it for 45 to 60 minutes. Because you might find that you’re struggling, but it’s usually now you’ll get the first 10, 20, 30 down, they’ll fly out, and they’ll be easier. And then you are probably going to have a sticking point. Stick with that; at that juncture, do not stop. Keep asking yourself the question. And what you’ll find is, usually after a few minutes, maybe five minutes, the floodgates will open again, and then you’ll hit another roadblock. So stay with it. This is why we’re saying stick with it for 45 to 60 minutes. Ideally, you’d have a list of 100 by the end of it. But if you don’t, as long as you’re stuck to the time and you’ve stayed focused with this, don’t be on social media and all the rest of it. Stick with it, and then you should have a good list anywhere. Now, what we’re going to do from here is go across to your calendar. I don’t know if you guys call that calendar in the US. Do you call it a calendar, Doug? What do you call it?
Doug Holt 3:45
We call it a calendar. Do you want the difference? When you guys use a diary, we don’t use a diary.
Tim Matthews 3:49
So I google calendar or iCal, whatever, go to that. I want you to cross-reference how many of the things you’ve written down. Do you have it in your diary? In your schedule, kind of. How does your calendar reflect many of these things? And this isn’t about doing more things. , we talk a lot about doing less and being more. That’s one of the ways that the guys experience such great results. And these things you’ve written down and give your life meaning only to go through and highlight the juicy ones, the ones that set you on fire. They imagine some of those things that set you on fire. And then other things that you can do for free. Things that require very little investment, just some planning. And again, I want you to look at your calendar and see. I’ve given myself permission or any time or allocating space to do these things. And that’s going to give you some great feedback about where you’re spending your time. Why, if you feel like your life has become about all work and play and become quite dull and mundane, this will be great feedback as to why and what you can do to change it.
Doug Holt 5:10
Sorry to interrupt the show. But I wanted to ask you a question. Do you ever feel like something’s just missing, like there’s something more out there, and you just can’t put your finger on it? I get it. Go over right now to https://www.thepowerfulman.com/vs-biz/. To discover the system that other business people just like you are using. We’ve included 10 case studies, ten men just like you who have found the solution and found their way on their path. We want to share that with you. Go over to https://www.thepowerfulman.com/vs-biz/ right away. Now let’s get back to the show.
Tim Matthews 5:52
I know we speak a lot. We speak with men in The Brotherhood a lot about being more childlike, not childish, for being childlike. , having that reckless fun, where there’s no agenda, there’s no outcome, you just get lost in something because you love to do it. It’s not necessarily about learning something new, where you’re focused on achieving something. The difference between achievement versus fulfillment is that one’s an actual one’s a stet. One’s an experience. This is about you guys injecting a lot more meaning into your life. And Doug, you say great or brilliant when you say, Show me a calendar, and I’ll show you priorities. And the reality here is, guys, once you start injecting more meaning and fun into your life. Watch how that affects every other area. The guys in the program, when they do this, usually what happens is their business grows a lot faster and a lot easier with them working less. Usually, their marriages take on a deeper level of connection and intimacy. And sex because they’re happier, have more energy, have more presence, and are not coming home in an evening. And like a volcano ready to rock the walk through the door. And the wife’s looking at the first slide, which version we’re going to get tonight. They’re not, and they are in a completely different space. So guys, do this, please. I implore you to do this. If you want more meaning in your life, this is key.
Doug Holt 7:24
Such a great exercise; I’m going to do this as well. I’ve never done it this way, Tim, So I Love the input. Gentlemen, bonus points. Suppose you go over to the Facebook group. Here’s a free group. And if you’re not a member, you already should be if you’re on Facebook, go over there and post your results. , there’s nothing wrong with liberating or poaching a few ideas off the other man. I know for me, Tim, there was a point I remember; it had to be about eight years ago or so, where I had a free weekend to do something fun. And to do it by myself. I was like crap; I didn’t know what to do. I remember that feeling. I’m just so used to working or hanging out with my partner or what have you at the time. So this is going to be a fun exercise. It’s going to be interesting to get to that number. So I’ll be doing this as well. Gentlemen, go over to the Facebook group and post to get bonus points. Like I said, look at the other man’s ideas, not from a place of judgment, but maybe you need some other ideas. Until you mentioned it to me a couple of weeks ago, Tim, I never probably jumped in puddles wouldn’t have ended up on my list. Since then, I’ve done it with my son, and it is a blast. Wow.
Tim Matthews 8:34
It’s so much fun. Anyway, keep and make this list with your wife. She could sit there, and Erin could write down a 100, and you could write down a 100.
Doug Holt Speaker 8:46
Well, that’s a different list. But yeah, we definitely can. I like where this is going, my friend.
Tim Matthews 8:53
They go.
Doug Holt 8:54
Gentlemen, that’s a wrap for us, a short episode but a great exercise to do, and as always, in the moment of insight, take massive action. That’s it for us, The Powerful Man for this episode, and we will see you next time. Make it a great day.
