Episode #1205
Many married businessmen spend years operating on auto-pilot, convincing themselves that there will always be another day to fix relationship distance, initiate tough conversations, or express genuine gratitude. When a husband assumes time is unlimited, trivial distractions easily crowd out what matters most. Instead of engaging deeply with family, men often default to scrolling on phones, overworking, or putting off vulnerability until a crisis strikes. This passive mindset often persists until an external emergency, such as divorce papers or a sudden health crisis, forces a sudden, painful wave of urgency.
In this episode, Tim Matthews is joined by Stephen (known as the “King of Cheese”) to explore a powerful thought experiment: What would you do if you knew today was your last 24 hours alive? When faced with a finite timeline, trivial business worries, fear of rejection, and petty relationship resentments immediately evaporate. Living with self-imposed urgency brings what is truly important into hyper-focus, giving a man the courage to put away distractions, speak honestly, and show up with complete presence for his family.
The discussion outlines key principles for using self-imposed urgency as a transformational tool:
Imposing urgency on yourself eliminates passive complacency and restores clarity to daily decisions. By pairing this mindset with core TPM practices like The Routine Cycle and learning to confront fears directly as discussed in run towards your fear, men can stop waiting for tomorrow and build a thriving, deeply connected life today.
00:00 - Introduction: What Would You Do If Today Was Your Last Day Alive?
01:31 - Shifting Priorities: Family Connection Over Business Distractions
02:19 - What Authentic Presence Looks Like Without Digital Distractions
03:31 - Why Happiness Rises as People Age: Running Out of Time to Care
04:30 - Doug Holt Mid-Roll: A Man’s Guide on How to Save Your Marriage
05:33 - Seeking Connection in the Wrong Places: Phones vs. Real World
06:51 - How Finite Timelines Eliminate Fear of Vulnerability
08:05 - Putting Trivial Stories and Daily BS Into Perspective
09:28 - Kicking the Can Down the Road: The Trap of Complacency
11:06 - What True Presence Looks Like at Home Without Grandiose Gestures
12:40 - Applying the “Last Day” Frame to Daily Morning Habits
14:39 - Self-Imposed Urgency vs. Waiting for Divorce Papers or Illness
17:23 - Breaking Out of the Discomfort Zone of Performing Only Under Pressure
19:38 - Cutting Through Noise to Focus on What Truly Matters
21:47 - Expressing Love and Owning Your Side of the Street
24:04 - Using Urgency to Eliminate Procrastination and Rock the Boat
26:41 - What If You Had 24 Hours to Save Your Marriage or Business?
28:27 - Leaving It All on the Field and Closing Remarks
How does the “last day alive” mindset help overcome procrastination in marriage?
Visualizing a finite timeline immediately strips away trivial excuses, fear of rejection, and petty resentments. It forces you to focus on what matters most, including expressing love, listening attentively, and taking immediate action to connect with your spouse.
What is the difference between self-imposed urgency and crisis urgency?
Crisis urgency happens when external disasters, such as divorce papers or a medical emergency, force you to act. Self-imposed urgency is a conscious choice to bring hyper-focus and decisive leadership to your daily life today before a crisis occurs.
Why do men delay fixing problems in their marriage until it is almost too late?
Men often fall into complacency, assuming there will always be more time or that minor issues will resolve on their own. Without a sense of urgency, men prioritize work or distraction over the uncomfortable work of emotional connection.
How can I apply urgency without overwhelming my family or business?
Applying urgency is not about doing everything at once; it is about doing what matters most with full presence. It means putting away your phone, expressing appreciation, addressing broken agreements calmly, and eliminating non-essential distractions.
If your marriage is struggling with communication breakdowns, distance, or a loss of trust, claim your copy of Doug Holt’s book, A Man’s Guide on How to Save Your Marriage Without Talking About It, to start taking massive action today. You can also assess your relationship dynamics and learn our step-by-step methodology by watching the free video training at The Powerful Man Scales.
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Tim Matthews 00:00
What would you do if you knew today was your last day alive?
Stephen 00:04
I think I would want to spend as much time as possible with my family.
Tim Matthews 00:08
What if you had 24 hours to save your marriage?
Stephen 00:10
Phone would be in the bin.
Tim Matthews 00:12
What stops you from doing that now?
Stephen 00:15
So many trivial little distractions, aren't there? They get in the way.
Tim Matthews 00:18
Or you can choose to impose urgency upon yourself.
Stephen 00:22
Yeah, it's a really good tool to deal with procrastination.
Tim Matthews 00:26
It brings what's important into hyper focus.
Tim Matthews 00:39
Hey guys, welcome to another episode of the TPM Show. My name's Tim Matthews. I am your host, and I am here with the incredible King of Cheese, Mr. Stephen Fleming.
Stephen 00:48
Hi, Tim. How are we doing?
Tim Matthews 00:49
I'm fantastic. How are you?
Stephen 00:51
Brilliant. Great. I'm really good, thank you. Stoked to be here again.
Tim Matthews 00:54
Great to have you here. It's obviously been a little while since you were here last, a few months, and I love watching your body language shift every time you come. It's just a significant shift in confidence.
Stephen 01:09
Excellent.
Tim Matthews 01:11
Whatever's happening in between is awesome. Good for you.
Stephen 01:14
Thank you.
Tim Matthews 01:15
What would you do if you knew today was your last day alive?
Stephen 01:23
Oh, there's a question. Obviously, I'd eat a lot of cheese.
Tim Matthews 01:31
That's great. I was not expecting the answer. What else would you do whilst eating a lot of cheese? Would you actually eat a lot of cheese?
Stephen 01:40
Do you know, actually, joking aside, that might not be top of my—I mean, that's obviously going to kill my King of Cheese persona, isn't it? But actually, if it was the last day, there might be other things that are more important. It's not the most important thing in my life.
Tim Matthews 01:53
Okay. What would you do?
Stephen 01:55
I think I would want to spend as much time as possible with my family. That would be the biggest thing for me.
I think, actually, business and everything along that would absolutely fall off the agenda if it was my last day on Earth.
Tim Matthews 02:09
And if it was your last day, what do you think your presence would be like with your family?
Stephen 02:19
I think it would be authentic, open, honest, because there'd be no point at all in leaving anything unsaid.
I think that would be a time, an opportunity, if there was anything that I felt was unsaid. There may well not be, but just a chance to be absolutely present.
Phone would be in the bin. Everything else would be out the window. Just be about time, connection with the people that I love the most.
What stops you from doing that now? There's a question. There's a really good question. So many trivial little distractions, aren't there, that get in the way?
Tim Matthews 03:06
Yeah, I was reflecting on this when I was journaling this week, and this is why I'm bringing it up, because I think the question carries so much merit.
If today was my last day on Earth, what would I do? I'm with you. I would be spending time with the people I love, and I think most people would say the same because you realize how important connection is.
As I've sat with this a little bit more, I heard something that really resonated with me. It's this idea that people, as they age, as they're getting towards end of life—80-year-olds, let's say—they really stop caring about what other people think, and their levels of happiness start to shoot up, typically anyway. Bell-shaped curve, right?
When they have been asked, "Why is that?" they often say, "Because they don't have the time to care." Literally, they are running out of time.
There's a different lens through which they will look at things. I think this idea of urgency, if today was your last day alive, it brings a real sense of urgency to what's important.
I think it's very easy, and this is human nature, obviously.
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Tim Matthews 05:33
For those same things to still be very important, but without that lens, the urgency just isn't there. It's almost like, well, it'll be there tomorrow.
Stephen 05:41
Yeah, there'll always be another day.
Tim Matthews 05:42
There'll always be another day.
But if we live like that—and I get it, it's not always possible to live like today is going to be my last day—but what if that could become a North Star through which you tried to abide by each day?
Stephen 06:03
Yeah, I think that could be incredible because I was just thinking as you're talking, one of the ironies, I think, in the day-to-day is that we're looking for connection in the wrong places.
I'm scrolling my phone for things to connect with, or to bring to the people that I want to connect with in the real world, and yet actually, they are taking me away from having a genuine connection with somebody who's maybe sat in the same room, someone who's sat across the desk from me.
Tim Matthews 06:32
Exactly right.
Stephen 06:34
The world we're in, it's crazy.
Tim Matthews 06:35
Yeah. If you knew today was your last day, there's a real finite way of approaching that day because you will know at midnight, let's say—
Stephen 06:45
That's it.
Tim Matthews 06:46
It ends. Done, right? So it brings what's important into hyper focus.
Stephen 06:51
Yeah.
Tim Matthews 06:51
And because of that timeline, it also then means you act with urgency in alignment with what is most important.
Let's just say today is your last day. All those stories that you have that hold you back from—I'll just say—connecting with Jane in the way that you would want, right? I've got to imagine those stories wouldn't matter.
You would go and say the things you want to say, express the thing you want to express.
Stephen 07:22
Yes.
Tim Matthews 07:24
Because, quite frankly, pardon my French, but you wouldn't give a fuck because the connection in that moment far outweighs the cost of being vulnerable.
Because, as I said, at midnight tonight, you won't get another chance. Boom, gone.
So the urgency there gives you the ability to break through the BS and the stories, and it also helps to put the BS into perspective.
Stephen 07:56
Yeah, that's something that strikes me. Anything that you think day-to-day is important, actually, doesn't amount to a hill of beans, does it?
Tim Matthews 08:05
It sharpens your focus because not only does it put the things that are most important into real, clear focus, it also does the same for the things that aren't important, like the BS stories that we tell ourselves as to why that connection is scary, or how she'll react, or whatever it may be that causes us to hold back.
I've got to imagine as well, if today was your last day, not only would you spend time with the people you love, I've got to imagine your levels of gratitude and appreciation for the day would be quite high as well.
Stephen 08:42
Yes, I think you would be seeing the whole world through a very different pair of eyes. Absolutely.
As well as a complete intolerance for anything that's going to cloud that or get in the way.
Tim Matthews 08:55
Yeah, just like the 80-year-old. You just say, "I don't have time for that."
Stephen 08:57
Yeah, it's funny that you say we have this view of people as they age, that they get very frank and candid about saying what they think rather than soft-soaping or being quite direct. It's quite refreshing.
Tim Matthews 09:10
It is refreshing, and this is the conundrum of human nature, if you will, because we know that we don't have 24 hours to live. We know that we've got longer than that, so therefore, it can breed complacency.
Stephen 09:28
I think it does. Yeah, we're all guilty of kicking the can down the road because we don't talk about our last day on Earth.
Tim Matthews 09:35
But even doing the thing you want to do, let's say it was your last day, right, and you've been meaning to take the family somewhere, or even go on a picnic with them or something. Could be something super simple, right?
Look, if it's the last day, you're probably still going to have something you're going to have to get done in the business to hand it off to whoever's going to take over it, right? But you'll be very clear on what needs to happen.
That meeting, you may allocate an hour. I'm just making this up, but you may allocate an hour because, hey, outside of that, I've got to go get with my family.
Stephen 10:12
I think you're right. That would bring razor-sharp clarity and brutal honesty. You wouldn't have time for the fluff.
Tim Matthews 10:27
No, that's right.
Stephen 10:27
Just no time for the fluff. Right, boom, boom, boom.
Tim Matthews 10:27
Exactly.
There's an element of surrender that I think would take place if you knew today was your last day. You wouldn't sweat the small stuff.
The small stuff could be worrying about what people think. It could be tolerating some things that really don't need tolerating, right? Whatever it may be.
So there'd be surrender and letting go. There'd be a sharp focus that would come in, and as a result, I think you'd go and do the thing that you really wanted to do with your family.
Connection ultimately is what it is, right? But how do you do that? Would you sit on the sofa? Maybe you do, maybe you don't. Maybe you play a game. Maybe you're in the living room, but the TV's off. There's a game that you're playing. Maybe you're not.
Maybe it's a nice day, and you go out for a picnic. I've got to imagine if it was your last day, it's not going to take anything grandiose.
Stephen 11:15
No, far from it. But as you say, it wouldn't be, "Let's all sit and watch a movie," because that's taking away from—well, that can be a connected experience. That's not going to be the same as sitting around a table eating a meal.
Tim Matthews 11:26
No. How present would you be?
Stephen 11:29
Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. Like I said before, the phone would be in the bin.
Tim Matthews 11:37
Wouldn't you be soaking in every moment? Right? You'd be wanting to really make the most of it.
Stephen 11:42
Absolutely.
Tim Matthews 11:43
You'd be wanting to show the people around the table or around the board game, whatever it may be, just how much you really do care for them, how much they really do mean to you.
I've got to imagine you'd be telling them how you feel. How much you love them, what you love about them, how much you appreciate them, what you wish for them, what you hope for them, how you believe in them, what you see for them.
You'd be encouraging. All these things would go into it.
Stephen 12:14
I think I'd also want to be holding space for them as well, to give them the room to share that back.
Tim Matthews 12:21
Yeah. So this is the thing. What if we could just take a little bit of this into each and every day? What if we could live just a little bit more like this was the last 24 hours?
Stephen 12:40
It really makes me think that's something to frame first thought in the morning: "What if today were the last day?" Maybe think of one or two things to do in that frame.
Tim Matthews 12:52
Like what?
Stephen 12:53
Like not reaching for the phone and scrolling through rubbish. That presence thing, that brutal honesty—or maybe not brutal honesty, but just that directness of getting on with something, of doing the important things, focusing on finding the important things.
Tim Matthews 13:13
I can get so fixated on a goal, as I'm sure you can too. Say it's with the gym, right? Working out. I'm following a plan, and I go in the morning.
This is something I've got a hell of a lot better at, but years ago, I would be so rigid. These are the days. These are the times.
Actually, this past weekend, I was supposed to go to the gym on Saturday morning, and Amelia said, "Hey, look, spend some time with me. Just hang out with me." So I did, and I just went to the gym the following day.
Sounds kind of obvious, right? But as the weeks are going by, days are going by, I don't know about you, but for me, I can get so into the habit of just knocking things out that the idea of moving something and how it impacts everything else can be a little bit tough at times. Also, I'm very busy too, just like you.
But I think if this was my last day, like I had the last 24 hours, I'd have flexibility.
I'd wake up in the morning, instead of, let's say, you might look at your phone, I'd roll over and hug Amelia, right? I'd probably take a slower morning.
If she's asking to then spend time with me, I'm going to be open to it.
Stephen 14:39
Yeah, that's a bid for connection, isn't it?
Tim Matthews 14:42
Yeah, it is a bid for connection. Luckily, I could see it, and I took it.
This is what I'm talking about, though, because it's just so easy to bury our heads in the sand, get caught up in life's busyness, and tell ourselves that we have tomorrow.
This is a trap that a lot of guys fall into when they end up coming to us and joining The Activation Method, and their wife has handed them the divorce papers, and it's completely blindsided them.
Because at which point, guess what? The urgency kicks in. "Oh crap, I need to do things now."
Stephen 15:24
Yeah, it's the last day on Earth scenario.
Tim Matthews 15:26
Exactly.
Now you have a choice. You can either have urgency imposed upon you—divorce papers, illness, whatever it may be, right?—or you can choose to impose urgency upon yourself.
If you choose to impose urgency upon yourself, it's going to enable you to bring the things that are most important to you very much into hyper focus.
Now, you are going to have to fight to overcome the internal inertia that exists to try and dispel the need for urgency, because this is going to go against most of what will be going on inside of you.
There'll be that voice that'll come in and say, "Hey, you don't need to do this. It's not urgent. It's okay," blah, blah, blah.
Why is that? Well, because it's uncomfortable to live that way. It's going to require, at least in the beginning, effort and energy to do those things, to say the thing, to be vulnerable, whatever it may be.
Part of this idea that it's the last day on Earth is you also have to wake up the following day and obviously deal with any of the potential consequences that may have come about from you sharing, whatever it may be, right?
But the issue is, you either die a slow death, or you choose to live a long life. But that long life is lived one day at a time, and it all starts with you choosing to take this frame of mind, like you were saying, just playing with this idea.
For me, I do not want an external sense of urgency imposed upon me. I've had it in my life many times. It is stressful as hell.
Stephen 17:23
Something's coming up for me in this from my own life and experience around your comfort zone, your so-called comfort zone being a discomforting place, having that sense of urgency imposed.
In the past, I was always the kind of person that performed best when there was that external sense of urgency.
Tim Matthews 17:45
I think a lot of guys would resonate with that.
Stephen 17:47
I imagine so. Yeah, I don't think I'm unique in that.
But I would, at times, put myself in those situations because I knew that I could perform in them, which is a very, very screwed-up way to be. It's common, but it's common.
Tim Matthews 18:04
Yeah, very, very common.
Stephen 18:05
So it is a difficult thing to say, "Okay, actually, I'm going to almost build that into my life on a daily basis. Say, if this was the last day," and filter out the really important things.
I think that filter of the important stuff is the thing that's, for me, I'm thinking that's the thing to really sit with and decide. Where are the problems?
Because there are so many things in life that are just going to distract you and demand your attention that really aren't important.
Tim Matthews 18:35
No, not all problems are created equal.
Stephen 18:38
No, that's right.
Tim Matthews 18:38
But I think you're spot on. "Hey, when my back is against the wall, I perform."
So the good news within that is you know you've got it within you. You know you've got it within you that when it's required, you can take massive action.
We often say, "In the moment of insight, take massive action."
Look, let's say you choose to take this philosophy, if you will. Let's say you choose to live by it. It's going to look different over seven days, over a week.
Stephen 19:04
Yeah, yeah.
Tim Matthews 19:04
Because there might be some days where you do just need to rest a little bit so that you can go again the following day and live like that day was going to be the last.
But to your point, I think the thing that I really like—there's two things I really like about this idea.
One is how it really can create such a sharp focus on the things that matter the most. If today was my last day, what would I do? Well, connection's going to be up there.
Then, to your point, how am I going to create connection? I'm trying to get it through the phone or through work or whatever it may be, right? When really I want it from the person that's right in front of me, but I'm too afraid to try and get it.
I'm too afraid to ask for it. I'm too afraid to be vulnerable, or whatever it may be.
So I like that it brings what matters most into sharp focus.
I think for me, even within that philosophy, there would still be action I'd take within TPM. Obviously, there'd still be action, but you'd be cutting through the noise.
So I like that, but I also like the urgency. We talk a lot within TPM about inspired action. I see inspired action very similar to the urgency piece.
Really making sure you're not just holding back and procrastinating and being slow and indecisive and being on the fence in your own life. All these things that we talk about, playing not to lose versus playing to win.
Because life is not going to wait around, and you have a choice.
Do you want to get to the 70-, 80-year-old version of you and then have regrets, and at that point start to not give a crap? At which point, it might be too late.
Or if you're going to end up being that way anyway, why not just be that way now? You may as well save yourself 50 years, or whatever it may be, 30 years, 20 years, whatever it may be.
Just be that way now.
Stephen 21:16
There's something you spoke about in the past a lot, about the idea of compressing time through taking action.
Say, "Okay, what's the five-year plan for this? How can you do that in three? Okay, how can you do that in six months?"
Which goes into that thing about massive action, not procrastinating, acting as if your back's against the wall. What could you do?
When I start to think that way, you start to think differently around, not so much, "Oh, right, this is going to take that amount of time," but, "Okay, who do I talk to? What tools do I need? Who can help me?"
Tim Matthews 21:47
Yeah. I think the energy that you'd come from as well.
Let's say, for sure, I just keep going back to this idea of connection because I think it's just so poignant and relevant, especially to the men listening.
Again, last 24 hours, you want to have connection with the people you love. You're going to say the thing, you're going to express yourself, but it's all going to come from a place of love, more than likely.
So it's going to be received very differently. You may be apologizing and owning your side of the street for something you did or didn't do, or something you said, or whatever it may be.
But again, I can't imagine there would be defensiveness in it.
Stephen 22:37
There would be acceptance.
Tim Matthews 22:44
Exactly. There'd be no room for it. There'd be acceptance of your side of the street, and again, it would come from this place of love, which therefore means it's going to be received so differently.
Whereas the opposite, you don't have this filter in place. Let's say that you get out of your own way and you do choose to start to express yourself.
Typically, most people are going to be so tentative in their expression of it, and/or defensive, and/or whatever it may be, because it's all worried about the response or reaction from the other person and wanting to minimize their own feelings of rejection.
Ultimately, they end up creating the thing that they want to avoid anyway, primarily because of the place that they're coming from.
I'm kind of having a little bit of a realization in this right now because, like I said, I've sat through this quite a bit through journaling and such.
But this idea of the place that it's going to pull you into, the place that you're going to then operate from, because of this sense of urgency and finality with time, I think that in itself is going to create a huge difference with the people you love.
Not only just the people you love, in whatever it is that you're doing.
I know I'm not saying anything groundbreaking because we've spoken about where you come from before. I get that.
But I think the finality of all of this exponentially increases the likelihood of coming from that place.
Stephen 24:04
Yeah, I agree. It feels like it's a really good tool to deal with procrastination around things.
The thought of, "Okay, what if I don't have—" because we kick so many things down the road around, "Oh, I'll deal with that tomorrow. It's going to be uncomfortable. I won't do it just now," or, "I won't rock the boat by talking about this because I don't want to rock the boat."
If there was no tomorrow, if the boat needed to be rocked, that block wouldn't be there, would it?
Tim Matthews 24:33
Exactly. It shows you how fickle the stories are.
Stephen 24:36
Yeah, really. And how, by not dealing with stuff urgently, as you say, that can then make problems worse or create a bigger situation than if it was just dealt with.
Tim Matthews 24:47
For sure. Yeah. It shows you how fickle the stories are that we tell ourselves.
If all of a sudden I know I've got 24 hours to live, those stories are gone. I am going for it. I'm sharing. I'm opening. I'm doing the things I really want to do. I am making the most of these 24 hours.
Now, if I had a broken leg, that isn't going to just heal in 24 hours. There is a physical impairment that I have. There is a literal issue.
A story isn't. A story is just a story. You can choose to step away from it and step out from behind it any time.
Stephen 25:30
There's something, I think for me, about—and this is something I've gained from my time with you and with TPM—having people around you who can call you out on those stories.
I've had that, in a good way, many times over the recent years. Around, "Oh, well, I can't do this because, I can't say that because, I can't take action on this because..." and somebody to say, "Well, really, is that not just a story?" makes a big difference.
It kind of got me thinking, this whole thing about the last day, not necessarily, "What if it was your last day on Earth?" but you could say, "What if this was my last day in my business? What if I had 24 hours to save my business? What would I do? What action would I take if my back was against the wall?"
That thing about this is your last chance to do something. What would you do? Who would you ring? Which prospects would you try and close? Would you shoot the video? Would you record a podcast?
To give you that clarity, I think you would get from that to do the important things that maybe you've been putting off.
Tim Matthews 26:41
I like the other frame that you mentioned offline. What if you had 24 hours to save your marriage?
Then what? How would you show up? What would you do? What energy would you bring? What would you say?
It really lights a fire in me. Really speaks like a book.
Stephen 27:04
It's really got me thinking. This topic is wonderful.
Tim Matthews 27:07
Massively.
Just the sense of urgency that comes through with this idea of a finite timeline. By midnight tonight, it is done. There is no more.
I have a choice. I either leave it all on the field, or I die on the field with more left in me.
I don't want the latter. I want to leave it all on the field.
Now, that doesn't necessarily mean I go and do more, but I could certainly be more. I could maybe be more expressive. I could be more present. I could be more grateful. I could be more appreciative. I could be more loving.
I could be more. All these things would help me to make that last 24 hours so much richer.
Stephen 27:57
Yeah, and the thought of it, I think, brings that focus, as you say, around, "Okay, what are the things I would actually do?"
Not to do everything, because sometimes, and I'm sure I'm not the only one that does this, "Right, I'm up against it. I've got to do everything. I've got to fix everything in the house. Got to fix everything with my relationship."
No, no, no. You're just going to overwhelm everybody and yourself.
What's the focus? What are the things that actually matter?
It goes back to the start of the subject and what's really important.
Tim Matthews 28:27
Yeah.
So guys, thank you for joining us on this episode. I would really love for you to play with this idea of, "Hey, what if today was my final 24 hours? What would I do?"
Just sit with it and try to bring in a level of seriousness in answering that question, and try to leverage the sense of urgency that you can create within yourself so that you are not forced to act when an external sense of urgency presses upon you, be it illness, divorce papers, whatever it may be.
Because ultimately, if you live a long life, you're going to reach 80 years old anyway, and at that point, you're not going to care what people think.
So you may as well compress time, arrive at that point now, and make the most of your life by spending time on the things that mean the most to you.
We'll see you next time on the TPM Show.