Episode #936
Ever feel like you’re stuck in limbo, not sure which way to go? What if I told you that staying on the fence is actually a decision—and usually not a good one?
In this episode, Coach Chris joins me to talk about why taking action is the key to getting unstuck in your relationships, business, and life. We break down the Five Territories—Self, Health, Wealth, Relationships, and Business—and how to figure out where you need to focus first. Plus, we dive into why indecision is one of the biggest killers of attraction in a marriage (yes, even when it’s just picking a place for dinner).
In this episode, we cover:
Why “not making a choice” is actually a choice
The power of decisiveness in your marriage and life
How to evaluate and balance the Five Territories
The simple habit that can keep you on track
Why men who take action see the biggest results
If you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to step up, this is your wake-up call. Tune in now and start making choices that actually move you forward.
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Transcription
Christopher 0:00
For me, I always evaluate your lowest points because that’s where the most room for improvement can happen, right? And then from there, you have to figure out the action you have to take—you have to do something. So I like to build my map of what that looks like.
And sometimes, you don’t know what that direction is, but every step you take forward, at least you’re going somewhere, right? You’re going somewhere. Even if it’s not the right path, you’re going to end up in the right spot, but you have to do something.
Doug Holt 0:38
Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of The TPM Show, and once again, we are blessed to have Coach Chris with us. I twisted his arm, asked him if he could stick around for another episode.
As it always happens, man, we start talking off-air, and we’re like, “Man, we should record this.” And so you guys are gonna experience that today. We’re gonna talk a little bit about balance. And before you think about balance the way you traditionally do—work-life balance—we’re gonna put a little twist on this one today.
Again, Chris has got a really good analogy that he uses when he talks about this as well. So Chris, thanks for talking to us.
Christopher 1:11
Thanks for having me again. One of the things that came up recently—I was talking to a good friend, and I told him this quote I heard: If you don’t make a change, you’ve made a choice.
He called me a couple of hours later and said, “Hey, when you said that, it made me think—I needed to check where I was in my life balance, like my balance in all my territories.” He understands what we do, and I was like, “Yeah, that’s a lot, right? We all need to do that at some point.”
I think a lot of times, the guys that find us are in a relationship where their self-balance is way, way off. But I think a lot of people don’t understand that it’s not just about that—that’s not just what we do, right? There’s a lot more to it.
Doug Holt 1:51
Not making a choice is a choice, right? And most people don’t think of that We talk a lot in TPM about this idea that being on the fence is the worst place to be. You have to be decisive because when you’re on the fence, you’re not getting either world, right?
We’ve all heard the analogy of a person with one foot on the dock and one foot on the boat, and the boat starts to leave. You know, I’m not that flexible, Chris, so I’m gonna be in the water pretty quickly. But I also know, for the men that we work with, one of the things their wives are craving is for their men to be more decisive, right?
And even if a man is decisive and the woman is against the decision, she can still find it sexy and attractive that he’s decisive. In fact, we have a testimonial—Colton, who runs the production here, and I drove across the country and into Canada. We stopped by and talked to one of the wives, and it’s on the website so people can see it.
They were an amazing couple. One of the things she said was—he was walking up the stairs, and I’m going to paraphrase this—he said, “I’m going to invest in this program, into TPM.” And she said something like, “What? No, you’re not.” And he goes, “No, I’m doing this,” and walked off. She goes, “That was so hot.”
So, despite her being upset and thinking, You’re not going to do this thing. You’re not going to spend the money—because when couples are in a bad space, neither of them wants the other to spend money or invest in anything—the truth is, you have to be decisive. Because not doing something is also a choice, and usually, it’s not the choice that’s going to put you where you want to be.
Christopher 3:37
That’s a really normal conversation I’m having with these guys—whether they’re going to present it to their wife or not—and to kind of let them know that, most likely, their wife isn’t going to be on board with it.
And sometimes, it has nothing to do with the money. Obviously, in some situations, it does. But a lot of times, it’s because they just don’t believe their husband is going to do the work to change—because they haven’t. They have a pattern of not showing up. So why would their wife want to spend that money on something that’s not going to be useful?
Doug Holt 4:02
I mean, how many times do any of us—really, all of us—say we’re going to do something, right? Hey, it’s New Year’s time, or it’s January: “I’m going to start that diet. I’m going to stop drinking as much. I’m going to go to the gym. I’m going to start that new business.”
And then, only three months—or three weeks—later, it dies off, right? Because it’s not just about making the choice; it’s about following through. When men, like your buddy, decide not to choose, they need to realize that is a decision. And most of the time, that decision comes from a place of victimhood, right? You’re playing the victim card: “I don’t know what to do.”
And maybe you don’t—but you have to do something. Otherwise, you’re going to be stagnant, and in my experience, that’s the worst place to be.
Christopher 4:51
Yeah, being stuck in that victim mindset—having that fear to move forward—it keeps you comfortable. You don’t want to step forward because it’s the unknown. And the other part is, there’s not a lot of mapping, right? Especially in relationship repair—so where do you start? Where do you go? And walking into that abyss can be difficult. But what happens if you don’t?
Doug Holt 5:08
Well, it’s about taking action. You know, the classic scenario in every relationship, right?
“Hey, where do you want to go to dinner?”
“I don’t know. Where do you want to go?”
“I don’t care. Just pick a place.”
“Well, I don’t know—do you want me to pick?”
That back-and-forth. When I talk to my wife—who coaches women—she’s got a group going on right now, and those women will tell you: That is the worst thing. The most unsexy thing is a man who doesn’t make a decision. They would rather their guy make a decision, be confident and decisive, and have it turn out to be the wrong one than to have him just sitting there, not knowing what to do.
Christopher 5:43
Yeah, that happens a lot. I mean, I’ve met your wife—she’s a very strong, powerful woman. It would be very easy for you not to make a decision.
Doug Holt 5:51
Oh yeah, she will!
Christopher 5:53
Oh yeah, but she doesn’t want to. And I think, when I’m talking to a lot of these guys, I can see that this is what’s happening. Their wives—they’re going to work, they’re taking care of the household, and they’re getting frustrated because you’re not even deciding where to go to dinner.
Like, even if you say, “We’re gonna go here,” and she’s like, “I don’t want to go there,” at least you made a decision. And that’s a step, right?
Doug Holt 6:13
Well, last night, for example—so my wife’s in the kitchen, she got the kids their dinner, and I go to her and say, “Hey, so what’s your plan for tonight?”
Because I’m weighing whether I’m going to get a couple of other things done or if we have the opportunity to talk—because she’s rolling out her new coaching group.
And she goes, “Please don’t ask me that. It puts me in my masculine.” And I was like, “Cool, got it. Do you want to do this tonight?” It was just a reminder, even for me, of how feminine energy works. And I would say that 98%—if not more—of masculine men want their woman to be in her feminine energy.
But for that to happen, she needs the masculine to be decisive. She needs the masculine to take action. When a woman is the home-care person, the child provider—she’s taking care of everybody else—and then her husband goes, “Well, I don’t want to get in trouble, so I’ll just let her make the choices because I don’t care,” that’s when problems start.
He tells himself, “Well, I don’t care that much,” but really, what he’s doing is forcing her to work even harder. He’s forcing her out of her natural feminine energy and into her masculine—because now, she has to take care of him.
And at that point, he’s no longer her partner. He just becomes another child in the family that she has to take care of.
Christopher 7:32
Yeah. It’s one of the questions I ask on every call, generally—what does dating look like between you guys? How often is that happening? Who’s initiating it?
Yeah, and you can imagine what kind of answers I get, right?
Doug Holt 7:46
I know exactly what you’re getting, yeah, yeah. But let’s tell the listeners what you’re hearing.
Christopher 7:50
Yeah, they’re not taking initiative. They do this: “Hey, we got a babysitter. Where do you want to go? What do you want to do?” Instead of saying, “We’re going here. I want you ready by this time. I want you to wear this. The food’s already picked out.”
Yeah, it completely frees them up. They don’t have to make a decision. They can just relax into that wonderful feminine energy that we all want our wives to be in—because that’s where the connection happens. That’s where the intimacy happens.
Doug Holt 8:19
Yeah, and people give men a hard time—and somewhat rightfully so—saying that men just want sex. But the truth is, men want connected, passionate sex. I was talking to a guy on a coaching call—it was a group call—and he goes, “Yeah, my wife lets me sleep with anybody I want to.”
And some of the guys were like, “Oh wow, that’s amazing!” You know, it sounds like an anomaly, right? And he goes, “It sucks. At first, it was awesome. But now, I’ll come home, try to be intimate with my wife, and she’ll turn to her friend and say, ‘Will you just please f** him so I don’t have to?'”
And he’s like, “It’s so degrading. It’s horrible.” At first, the “freedom” felt great, but then he realized what he really wanted was for his wife to want him. To desire him. We always talk about how women want to be seen, heard, and desired. And I’d also add safety—feeling emotionally safe is a huge factor.
But what we don’t talk about enough is that men also want to be seen, heard, and desired. I think every guy wants his wife or partner to look at him with those “I want you” eyes—anytime, let alone…
Christopher 9:33
Yeah, it’s just as important for men. And what happened is, at one point in that relationship—at the beginning—that desire was there. You were both being seen and desired, right? And then it gets lost. That transition happens—it’s the 10,000 paper cuts, right?
Doug Holt 9:49
Well, it is. It’s death by 10,000 paper cuts. But what’s also happening for the woman is that she’s not getting the emotional connection she needs, so she starts to withdraw. And withdraw. And withdraw within herself.
And in my experience, it’s usually the case that the woman has been desiring it for a number of years—until it’s too late.A nd when it’s too late, usually, unless it’s an acute issue—right, like an affair or he’s done something abusive—the woman, typically, when she decides it’s time to file for divorce…
And again, 70% of divorces are initiated by the woman. That number goes up to 90% if she’s got a college degree or higher, which is just crazy to me. But I get it too. Usually, she’s already got her landing spot picked out, and that’s why it’s hard to retract it. It’s harder to reverse it.
She’s been trying, and trying, and trying. She’s hit her last breaking point. So she’s like, Alright… She’s picked the place she’s gonna live—or the place you’re gonna live. She’s picked her job. She’s checked off all these safety boxes so she has a place to land.
Christopher 10:53
Yeah, I think men need to recognize that the longer you take to step into their shoes and fulfill that role, the more walls and protective layers she’s putting on herself. Because every time you’ve denied that connection, it hurts her a little more.
So she adds another layer of protection. And another. Until eventually, the communication stops. That opportunity, that door—it closes.
Doug Holt 11:15
And the door can be reopened. I mean, I see guys that join The Activation Method, right? As an example, I’ve seen them turn around divorce papers within a week. And it’s because, like you said earlier, the guy is finally taking action. And she’s like, “Ah, finally, right? Finally, you’re doing the shit you should have done five years ago.”
Yeah, and getting it done.Now, it doesn’t always happen. I mean, don’t get me wrong—sometimes it’s too late. Like, sometimes she’s just like, “No. I’ve given you all the chances possible. I’m out.”
But it does happen. Now, going back to your initial comment—your buddy talking about that—we were also discussing: How can we look at that through the Five Territories?
Yeah, so the Five Territories, for those that don’t know, are:
- Self
- Health
- Wealth
- Relationships
- Business
And so, how did you address those? How would you address those Five Territories with that question?
Christopher 12:06
I do mine often, so I usually do it once a month. I’ll write all five down and give myself a score from 1 to 10.
- 10 = I’m killing it.
- 1 = I’m not killing it.
And I do that because it’s always a sliding scale, right? Like, where our mind and focus are at any given time—maybe, over those four weeks, something threw off my balance. If I’m looking at these regularly, I can course correct.
Maybe I didn’t get to the gym as much as I wanted, so my health suffered because I was too focused on work. I can see that, and I can adjust. So I’m constantly evaluating these areas because when things get tipped, everything starts to go sideways.
Doug Holt 12:42
Yeah, right, the analogy. So we have the Chart of Intentional Living that we do. We teach the men—we call it The COIL for short So within that Chart of Intentional Living, you’re rating yourself consistently.
In fact, we have the guys go through the program, have them rate themselves weekly, and then do monthly, quarterly, and yearly reviews. But I look at it as spokes on a wheel, like an old wagon wheel.
I’ve been watching—I can’t think of the Western I’m watching right now, but there are a ton of Westerns coming out right now. It’s crazy. It’s American something, but it’s pretty good. I’ll figure out what the name is. I’m sure Colton knows it. But if so, think of those Five Territories as five spokes on a wagon wheel, right?
Going through the Old West of the U.S., and one of those spokes breaks, right? If that wheel is at a 10, it’s perfectly circular, right? So if you imagine that whole wheel—now, if one of those territories is at an 8, part of that wheel is bent in a little bit.
If it’s a 4, it’s really bent. And imagine how bumpy that ride would be if your wagon wheel was completely offset.
Christopher 13:41
Yeah, makes so much sense. And people feel that, right? You know—you know when your life is off balance.
Doug Holt 13:47
Not only do you know it, but everybody else does too. I mean, we all think we’re fooling people, right? But after doing The Alpha Reset and coaching for as long as I have, I can see right through people.
I’ve been trained to do it very easily. I try to turn it off in social situations because otherwise, it’s annoying—to me and to other people. But people know what’s going on. They know when someone’s marriage isn’t working. They know when someone’s life isn’t going well.
They know when someone is unhappy, unfulfilled, stressed, or anxious. We can all feel that energy. And women tend to be even more tuned into it. You know, there are all these anthropological theories about how women had to be more in tune with what was going on in the community for survival.
And so they know this really well. In fact, this morning—I don’t think I told you this—but I converted my garage into a home gym. I bought cable machines, went the whole nine yards, because my wife likes working out. And there’s a group of women—other moms in our social circle—who also want to work out.
So I was like, “Hey, why don’t you guys just come here and do it? And I joined them this morning. I’ve joined them a couple of times—super fun. It also makes all the other fathers pissed off, which I love. I love talking trash. So this morning, while my wife and the other women were working out, I was there.
I had my headphones on, but when I took them off, I could hear how much they were relating and sharing. They were talking about everything—their relationships, their families. And it just reminded me—this whole idea that not making a choice is still a choice—you’re not fooling anybody.
Because if your relationship is off, your friends know. And if your wife has friends? They definitely know. Women talk. If your wife knows their wives, trust me—they know everything.
Christopher 15:35
I love that. I actually just had a guy come on board, and what you said really hit me—when things are off in your life, everyone around you feels it. When I first met this guy on a call, you could feel it. The way he talked, the way he sat, the way he carried himself—everything.
Doug Holt 15:53
Hey guys, sorry to interrupt this episode, but the reality is—if you’re watching or listening to this right now, then you’re looking to better yourself. And I applaud you for that. You’re one of my people, and I want to give you the opportunity to take massive action.
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There’s a link in the description that will take you to a page with more information. No obligation—just go check it out and see if it’s a good fit for you. Alright, let’s get back to the episode.
Christopher 16:35
A week later, I called to check up on him, and he was just in a different energy. And I said, “Man, you look lighter.” He’s like, “I went to work today, and a couple of my guys asked me what I was doing because they felt it.” And that’s one week of just diving into that work. And it was crazy—the change in him.
Doug Holt 16:53
It’s so interesting. It’s kind of like somebody who loses a ton of weight really fast, and they forget how hard it was walking upstairs with that additional weight. They forget how difficult things used to be and how easy things are now. Well, back in my former life as a strength coach, we did this Biggest Loser-style contest within our facility. And we had one guy who lost, I think, 25 pounds pretty quickly. Then he started complaining, you know, bitching and moaning.
So his trainer grabbed a 25-pound plate, put it on him, and said, “Okay, let’s go for a walk.” And he was just like, “This hurts my legs. My knees!” And the trainer goes, “Dude, you’ve been carrying this extra weight for 20 years.”
This guy was a beast—he was really starting to trim down and feel better. But he was just having a bad day.
So his trainer was like, “No, let’s remember. Let’s go back and recall where you were.” You know, he had forgotten that he deserved to feel good. I think a lot of men listening to this—who are depressed, who are feeling stuck in the tunnel, who are in that darkness—they forget that they deserve to feel good.
They deserve to feel optimal. I was talking to a doctor—I was getting my hormone levels checked—and when my bloodwork came back, he said, “Yeah, your numbers are in the acceptable range.”
But then he said something that clicked for me:
“But my philosophy is—you deserve optimal.”
“Acceptable is for the lowest-level person. Doug, you’re not a lowest-level person. You deserve optimal.”
And he wasn’t even selling me anything. He was pointing me to another physician for more extensive testing. But that really hit me.
Because —you deserve optimal health. You deserve to feel great. None of us are going to be happy all the time—that’s not realistic. If you’re happy all the time, they lock you up for that. It’s called crazy. But you should get to feel good most of the time. You should get to feel light. And if you don’t—if you’re stuck in that darkness—you need to speak to someone. Find someone. Exhaust your resources—or your resourcefulness—to get to a solution.
Christopher 18:57
I think it’s important. There are those five territories, which means there’s probably multiple people you’re going to need to balance that. There are multiple coaches, multiple sources of help and support, because there are experts in all those areas, you know.
Doug Holt 19:08
Yeah. Say I’m a guy at home right now or on the treadmill, what have you. I’m thinking through my five territories—self, health, wealth, relationships, and business—and I’m giving myself a number.
And I’ve done this with guys who are like, “3, 4, 2, 1,” you know. But I’m going through there, and I’m like, Shit. Most of these aren’t 10s, or there’s a couple that aren’t 10s anyway.
How should they start?
Christopher 19:30
For me? Always evaluate your lowest points because that’s where the most room for improvement can happen, right?And then from there, you have to figure out the action you need to take. You have to do something.
So I like to build my map of what that looks like. And sometimes, you don’t know what that direction is, but every step you take forward—at least you’re going somewhere, right? You’re going somewhere.
Even if it’s not the right path, you’re going to end up in the right spot. But you have to do something. And here’s what I hate to see, especially when it comes to self-improvement—people grab a podcast or a book, and they consume, and they consume, and they consume.
And now they have the concept. Yep, they understand—but they haven’t taken any action. So if they evaluate again, they have more information in their head, but they haven’t changed anything in their physical world yet.
Doug Holt 20:17
Yeah. Well, we were talking about something totally different this morning over coffee, and I made the analogy that you’re a pro mountain biker. And I was like, “Look, me reading a book on mountain biking is a lot different than me going off one of those jumps you were telling me about at that event.”
That’s a different feeling. I can understand conceptually—“Ride real fast. Hold on. Pray.” But when I actually see that ramp in front of me? Totally different experience.
Christopher 20:58
Yeah, I think it’s a great idea. It’s like, “Hey, we’re at a three. I want to be at an eight.” You’re not going to go hit that huge jump on your first try, right? You’ve got to start with small jumps that build you up to the big jump.
Doug Holt 21:09
Is there a 0.3 level? I’ll start there! Yeah, but that’s exactly it. You know, the whole Thomas Edison thing, right? He failed 1,000 times—or, really, he found 1,000 ways that didn’t work until he figured it out. And imagine if he just gave up.
Imagine if nobody ever kept going. I mean, sure, eventually, someone else probably would have invented the light bulb—Nikola Tesla, whoever—but you get the point.
The lesson is that he kept going. And another thing I was thinking about while we were talking is this whole idea of paralysis by analysis. So many people overanalyze everything before they take action. And then they get paralyzed.
They’re so afraid of making the wrong move that they don’t make any move at all. I actually know someone in my life like this. It’s kind of a joke at this point—I have to tell him things six months in advance if it’s a big decision.
So I’m always planning a year ahead, thinking, Okay, I need to tell him about this now, so in six months, he’ll be able to move forward with it.
Christopher 22:17
Yeah, that fear of failure, that fear of stepping forward—it holds so many people back. I’ve been fortunate that I’m the opposite of that. Ignorance is bliss for me. I’ll walk off that cliff and then figure out how to land.
Doug Holt 22:37
But you also know that—like myself, I’m similar to that—you’ve survived. You’re going to survive. Yeah, if you make a decision—if you’re making a decision that’s for betterment—in my experience, not only are you going to survive, but you’re going to grow. And it might not be the growth that you thought it would be, but it’ll be the growth you need. Yeah, so that’s a typical thing.
Now we come back to this whole idea, right, of making these improvements in the Five Territories. One of the things that I look at for myself is—so if we were talking, and you said, “Hey, this one is a five, the other ones are sevens,” or what have you, I would ask you, “Which one is most important to you?” Yeah, what’s the most important one? Start there.
And I agree with you—sometimes, the lowest one gives you the biggest lift. Totally agree with that. I’ve also found over the years that when I help someone pick the most important one, it gives them a big lift—kind of an emotional, spiritual lift—because the area that’s important to them is starting to improve. Yeah, and the other ones kind of naturally start to rise up, right?
Christopher 23:42
That makes sense. I guess that a lot of times, when I evaluate mine, the lowest one always ends up being the one that is the most important to me, right?
Yeah, it always tends to fall on that. But you’re right. As I work on, say, the relationship, the self is going right with it, right? Sometimes the health just naturally follows that as well.
Doug Holt 24:00
So, yeah, I find that. I’m curious, for you—the one that you’re saying is the biggest priority—why do you think that’s the one that goes down? Or do you think it becomes the biggest priority because it’s lower?
Christopher 24:13
No, because sometimes I don’t always recognize it at that time until I really sit and reflect. I don’t know why that is, but if I recognize it, if I see that, and I start thinking back, it usually always falls into that pattern.
And a lot of times, mine has been business because sometimes there are struggles there. So if I’m having so much trouble here, it’s affecting my relationship. And I have to get this corrected first in order to get that break—to come back into here too.
So that’s what it tends to be. Or, if my relationship is struggling, my business is going that way because all my time and energy is getting wasted on this problem, right?
Doug Holt 24:52
Yeah. I mean, they’re all so interconnected. I was just thinking about what mine was. I always say, “Health is my domino.” But I don’t think that’s true. I think, as we’re talking about this—if my wife and I are struggling, or I’m struggling with my kids, or my friendships are struggling, I think everything struggles, right?
Whereas if my health is struggling, I could still have a high relationship score, I could still have a high business score. So that’s not the domino for me. If I’m focused on health, usually it’s because those other ones are already doing well and I have the energy.
Because when—man, when your business is not doing well—the gym is probably the first thing you’re going to skip. For a lot of people, unless it’s become a habit, like a lifestyle, yeah, you’re going to let those things go.
You’re going to sleep less. Drink more caffeine. Drink more alcohol. Your relationship is going to crumble because you’re focused on the business, and you’re stressed. But I do think it’s the relationship one.
Christopher 25:47
For me, I like that—the which ones are your dominoes idea. And for me, it definitely would be relationship and business.
Doug Holt 25:53
Yeah, yeah. I think it is for most people. I can’t think of anybody that I know—certainly not anybody I associate with—who would say, “Yeah, my relationships are crap, but everything else is great.”
You know, especially with those close relationships—friends, close friendships, partner, kids, close family, nuclear family. To the best of your ability, you can’t control those people, right?
But you can—to your point in earlier podcasts—you can exhaust your resources in such a way that you put in the work for those relationships. And if they don’t work out, you can step back and go, “Okay, well, I did everything I possibly could to give this a chance.”
And that’s a choice. Now, again, back to that—any choice is a choice. Even not making a choice is a choice.
Christopher 26:39
I mean, I think the ultimate goal for all of us is to get through this life with as few regrets as possible, right? And so if we put in that energy, and it comes from our heart, and it’s really in the right place—if it doesn’t work, at least you tried. You’re not going to regret putting in that work and effort.
Doug Holt 26:56
You never regret trying, right? I mean, in working out or anything else, the days I’ve worked the hardest are the days I’ve enjoyed the most. Or playing sports—I remember playing sports and losing games but still feeling good because I left everything on the field or on the court.
It was like, “Yeah, we lost, but man, there’s literally nothing else I could have done. I collapsed. I put it all out there.” And you have to do that in life, in business, in your marriage—you have to put it all out there. Put it all on the line and really go after it, so at the end of the day, you can put your head on the pillow and get a good night’s sleep.
Christopher 27:32
That was like my mountain bike race. That one run—I put everything I had into it. And it wasn’t first place, but for me, it was. Because I knew I put everything out there.
Doug Holt 27:41
Yeah, that’s exactly what it is. So how do we put everything out there in the Five Territories? I think that’s the question we should leave guys with—
Where in your Five Territories are you not putting in everything?
- In yourself?
- In your health?
- In your wealth?
- In your relationships?
- In your business?
Where are you leaving energy on the court, so to speak, or on the field—where you’re not stepping up and being the MVP of your game in those Five Territories? I love this conversation.
Christopher 28:10
Yeah, yeah. Lots of reflection, right?
Doug Holt 28:12
Yeah. Gentlemen, as I always say, in the moment of insight—take massive action. And remember—get off the friggin’ fence. Make a choice one way or the other. Now, if your relationship is struggling, do something. Don’t just go from one podcast to another, just like Chris was talking about. I call that educational masturbation, right?
I did it, man. I used to listen to podcasts for hours—while working out, while doing other things. And it’s good if you take action. It’s good to get information like this. It’s good to be in the conversation. But only if you’re actually doing something with the information you’re getting.
You have to be doing something. Being on the fence is the worst thing. As Chris was saying—not making a choice, which is being on the fence, is making a choice. You are choosing to be on that fence.
And I promise you, the fence does not feel good. I’ve been there. Everybody’s been there. You’ve been there. If you find yourself on the fence—do something. If it’s your relationship, it doesn’t have to be with TPM.
But go do something else. Go do another program. Get a coach. Get guidance. Find a counselor. Find somebody to help you out—whatever’s best for you. Now, I’m biased—I think we have the best programs out there.
Otherwise, we’d change them. We’d tweak them to make them the best. This is what I love to do. So if you’re on the fence about that—make a decision. But maybe it’s your business. Your health. Whatever it is for you—make a decision.
And also, look at your Five Territories:
- Yourself
- Your health
- Your wealth
- Your relationships
- Your business
And do what Chris does—rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10.
- 10 = Killing it.
- 1 = Not even close.
Rate yourself. Then figure out which one’s most important. Then figure out the easiest next step for you to take action—right now.
We’ll see you next time on The Powerful Man Show.
